Top 5 ways to improve your communication skills: Step 1
Apr 30, 2015
Be aware of your body language
Remember this phrase: "you cannot, not, communicate"!
Or, in other words: there is no possibility of non-communication. Everything you do, say (or not say), wear, the way you act (or not act) - they all say something, communicate something, whether you want it or not. Non-communication is not possible. (For more info about this theorem see Paul Watzlawick's 5 basic axioms)
Due to the intrinsic link between mind and body whatever you are thinking will be seen externally/physically.
There are explicit noticeable body language cues like folding arms, staring at someone, tapping your feet etc. etc. And there are subtle/discreet cues which are more muscle movement/micro expressions.
Micro expressions are very brief facial expressions, lasting only a fraction of a second. They occur when a person either deliberately or unconsciously conceals a feeling. Seven emotions have universal signals: anger, fear, sadness, disgust, contempt, surprise and happiness. In a research project along with Maureen O'Sullivan, called the Wizards Project, Paul Ekman reported on facial "micro expressions'' which could be used to assist in lie detection and eye movements.
Lastly eye movements, (these can be both noticeable and subtle), which according to Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) are automatic, unconscious eye movements, or "eye accessing cues," which are often accompany particular thought processes, and indicate the access and use of particular representational systems, in NLP speak, Visual, Auditory, Kinaesthetic Olfactory and Gustatory (See, Hear, Touch, Taste and Smell).
Being aware of your body language will make you aware of how you are feeling of something and this in turn will give you feedback and also, more positively you will be able to see what/how others are communicating thus giving more options and choices to build better relationships.